our mothers

Ok so I am 28, married with 3 kids and 1 on the way. Live in my own house and drive my own cars.

So why in the hell does my mother still think she is my freaking boss??? I called my dad today around 11 to ask him something. As of now I have no clue what it was. Something dumb I guess. I get no call back at all.

I was napping today and I guess my mom called a couple times. Well I never answered the phone becasue I was sleeping. So she just shows up.

Jared has a hair appt at 4:30, but yet he is gone with my mom. She said I should have picked up the phone and told her before and she would not have come over. So at this time Jared is crying because I have told him no. So I know now that he is going to be a PIA over getting his haircut so I tell him to just go. I tell my mom if he is going to take a pill because I am sure he will spend the night(other thread I said that was not going to happen )

So I call dh tell him to just work and not to get off because he is gone. We were going to the mall afterwards to see Santa. Then Jared comes in crying and my mom has left and tells him to get his cut and then us bring him over. I tell him to late him and his nana screwed the plan up. I told him to call her and tell her to just come and get him.

So she comes and yells at me for messing her plan up. OMG I am so pissed. I have had the week from hell with Jared and she comes in and does this shit. No wonder why the kid treats me the way he does. He see's my mom do it.

So does anybody's mom still try and control them??? Or is my mom just some wack job?

My moms not the controll freak but the freak out at every little thing call the dr. freak...the funny thing is when its actually something serrious she thinks nothing of it.

I love my mom dearly, but she drives me nuts everyday. I am 38 and she calls me with reminders of what I need to do. I hope that I don't repeat any of this when my kids are grown!

My mom is a total whack job. I love her..but God do I love that she lives in Ft. Lauderdale! She is the kind that something will be terribly wrong..and she will give you a big fake smile and say everything is fine..and she gets weirder and weirder every year.

My mom's nutso too. She is just now coming around to *try* to be nice to my DH, and it's only because she feels like she has to with a grandkid on the way. I used to think she and I were good friends until she was completely unsupportive when I got divorced and even worse when I got remarried. In fact, she talks to my ex more than she talks to me, and for years before I finally left him she was encouraging me to! Anyway, that's a story for another day.

Now she's trying to act like nothing ever happened, and keeps saying things like, "I'll be able to tell how good of a job I did with you when I see how you are with your kids." First of all, if she wants to know, she should look at my loser siblings. Second of all, my good job as a parent will be in spite of all that she's done to me. And third, taking credit would totally discount what a great dad my DH will be. She's cuckoo for cocoa puffs.

Oh, and she's convinced that when I finally go into labor that I'll only want her there with me. She's the last person I want there with me. I'm seriously tempted not to even tell her I've gone into labor until a week after our baby gets here! My DH has been my rock for the past couple of years and he's the only one that I want there for our big day.

It's amazing how clueless moms can be. We won't be like that, right? RIGHT?!!?!?

Nope...no matter how awesome we are..our kids will think we are nuts too. Its just the way things work.

I too have the craziest mother and the stories that have about our relationship that would make you both laugh and cry. I love to death but some days i would love to just kill her, and I know that every judge would so understand why.

Ditto to everything. I LOVE my mom and she has done SO much for me (especially in my evil teenage years) but she is the most unreliable person in the WORLD. She will tell me she is going to do something and it will take her literally at least a month to get done. Like with the baby, since DH and I decided to get married before the baby came instead of after I had to go onto a Cobra plan for insruance, because her plan kicked me off when i got married. Anyways I was telling her that she needed to get me the Cobra info because as soon as I got married I wouldnt have insruance. I finally had to call her insurance 2 weeks AFTER i got married to figure out the Cobra and get the info myself. So for the whole month of September I didnt have insurance! I was SO pissed off. It seriously only took me one simple call. If I had known I could have done it sooner I would have but I thought since it was her plan she had to do it. Anwyas, that is my mother for you. So unreliable, I always talk to Ryder and promise him I will never be like that. UG she is just so lazy sometimes. But I love her and she is my mom, she still irritates the hell out of me though.

My Mom is great and we have a wonderful relationship. My Mom and my step-mom. I love them both dearly. My MIL on the other hand is the one I have the problem with. She is a TOTAL control freak!

Well I am glad I am not the only one.

She called about 7:30 tonight and acted like nothing happened. Seeing if Jared was packing or buying lunch and telling me she was making a cake for Santa Shop on Saturday. Hello I am making 4 cakes myself. Call and ask before you start lady.

OMG....i could have written all your ladies post...my mom is all of the above...i love her to death but i just dont agree with a lot of what she does and what she is about...i know she thinks she is doing good, but shes not...

She was throwing my baby shower for my DS and i knew about it because we live in IL and i was going to have to fly back...well i give her the invites and the list..ALL SHE HAS TO DO IS FILL IN THE INFO AND MAIL IT! Not hard right...well i am getting calls from friends and family they still have not recieved the invites...so i ask my mom...she blames the post office...i still know in my heart she just never did it and lied to me...so i wrote out my own invites and mailed them myself...guess what..>EVERYONE got theres....hmmm something is wrong with this picture...there is sooo much more...sorry i guess i needed to vent that...i have been holding that in for 2 yrs now!

I feel so lucky... my mom and I never had that good of a relationship until I had DS (almost 9 years ago) but a lot of it was me because I would do anything and everything they told me not to do. But, when I had DS my Mom changed to a whole different person. Not that she wouldn't do anything for me before but now, she doesn't even hesitate. My Mom will call me several times a day to check in with me and see how I am feeling or if I need anything. She will come and pick up DS to give me a break because DH is working a lot and I am a stay at home mom so I do need that break sometimes. Now, my Mom works 2 jobs (for her spending money) and still does things like this or even go to the store for me, since I am on bedrest. Well, the other day my knee went out on me and I fell hard... all I had to do was call my Mom (DH works 1 hour away with no traffic) and she came home to take me to the ER since I was bleeding, she is GREAT!! My only complaint is that my parents let my son get away with everything, but hey they are grandparents that is what they are supposed to do!

So, for some of you I just want to say that just because your Mom is nuts or crazy, what ever you want to call her, give her a chance because life is way too short and you never know when tomorrow will be the last day. And then it will be too late and you will regret everything no matter how you feel now, if you have a heart (which I know you all do) this is the way things will play out. I have seen this happen to several really close family friends and family so I know what will happen and it isn't a good feeling.