A couple things on my mind....

FIRST of ALL...... I am ready to hit the hoe bag that won't leave my DH alone. I see where she had texted him and he has texted ONE time since I flipped out and I seen that text..... ASKING/TELLING her not to text him anymore. And her damn status on myspace is talking about me. (Here is what it is... (*) Pauls Wonderful Wife (*) Losing a wonderful friend over some bull, feeling down, poor baby!!!! ) I am ready to hit her little UGLY head off. I THINK she tried to call Matt the other day, because it was a blocked call and I picked it up and they hung up. He was in the other room and I took his phone in there and told him that someone tried to call and hung up when I said "hello" ANYHOW.. my SIL and I are hoping to take a trip to the town that she lives in and pay her a vist. AFTER Caleb is born and I am all healed! My SIL can't stand the ugly HOG BAG either.
And on to a HAPPY topic, I guess!!! I am have been craving sour candy for the past 7 months and it has gotten REALLY bad the past month. GIRLS.. my mouth was hurting from it and I still HAD to put a piece of sour candy in it!!! Poor Caleb is going to HATE sour candy or anything sour for that matter!!! Oh yeah, I can't seem to get enough hot food either. I am part mexican, but I have never really liked eatting something that burns my mouth... but I was eatting chips and salsa tonight and my mouth was on FIRE!!!!! And I just kept eatting them??!! What is going on in my prego head!??!! AND I REALLY believe that I would walk out the door everyday without my head if it wasn't a part of me!!! This preg. has kicked my ass this go around!!! I am 30 weeks today and I don't feel like I am that far along. I am JUST getting to the point where I need to wear my "fat pants" and I was in them by like 4 or 5 months the past two pregs. OH YEAH..... Caleb is growing like a weed and their don't know why he "stopped" for about 2 or 3 weeks. He is still behind alittle but not by much. I still have to go to the HR dr AND my reg. dr!? BUT they both are the coolest around. Caleb is kicking like CRAZY... doesn't like when DH has his hands on me , but won't kick if one of the boys have their hands on my tummy. I have a feeling we are going to be REALLY close!!! LOL!!! He will be on mommys "team" !!! Well I think I have typed enough, I feel a little better getting that all off my chest!!! I think I am going to go have some sour candy and read a bit!!!

Lacie

Today at work, I was really craving chocolate, but I didn't have any so I ate an entire gigantic bag of sour patch kids! I can eat sour all day long, and I am loving the spicy too. It must be our little boys. All foods give me heartburn, so I just eat whatever I want now. I'm glad to hear that your little man is growing well now. That must have been scary for the few weeks he wasn't.

And as for the ho bag...WHAT A BITCH! As long as your DH is on your side now, it doesn't matter what stupid junior high games she's playing. I don't understand girls that think it would be a GOOD thing to be able to break up a happy relationship. If she were to actually succeed, would she really be able to live with herself, and not just that, but trust him to not leave her for some other chick? I mean, how dumb can you be!?!?
Sounds like the ugly bitch wants to feel wanted and now she has to find it from somewhere else. Hoochie mama...

Lacie~ Hang in there! I don't know what to say about your husband. I am so sorry that this is continuing to happen. I know that you want to confront her and kick her ass. I am sure with your preggo hormones you could do that and more. Just make sure that you don't get your blood pressure too high. Not good for you or Caleb. I think that this whole thing will die down eventually and this girl will eventually lose interest. I think that she is all about the thrill. Your husband needs to be concentrating on you and the other kids right now. Keep venting away on here and stay away from that crazy girl. You will always be better and one up on her. Matt is YOUR husband and you and him have beautiful children together.

I can't stand women like her! What a bitch! She needs to back off, but don't have the good sense about her to get it. Hang in there...I know you want to give her the ass kickin of a lifetime, but just relax. Then she will know she won. Keep trying to be the better person, especially now. I am in a similar position with my MIL and SIL...trying to be the better person and ignoring them will be better for you and Caleb in the long run. Concentrate on you and the little one. I am glad to hear he is doing well. I just think it is sad that you blocked her from calling and she is STILL determined to text and call. That is just stupid and childish and if your husband can't see through that...shame on him. Take care of yourself and Caleb...keep eating your spicy and sour food because it makes you happy. We are all on your side Lacie! Vent away girlie!

FYI, they sell 2lb bags of Sour Patch Kids at Wal-Mart...they are FABULOUS...I ate an entire bag right before Christmas so I got another one in my stocking...I bought it for myself - LOL.

I'm glad I am not the only one that is loving sour candy. When we went shopping Friday at the mall, there is a candy store in there and OMG.... I got a huge bag of sour candys. I think I got a little bit of everything they had. I am still eatting on it, but I know it isn't going to last much longer. SO... I will be going to Wal-mart today or tomorrow to see about getting some sour candy. I am LOVING the sour straw things.... Well I am off to do some running around town... and maybe I can get the boys to be good by telling them we will have a candy prize if they are good, so I don't have to hind to eat my candy!! LOL!! What a great mommy I am!!!
OH YEAH.... Matt just called and to see how I was feeling today and asked what I was doing and I told him that I was on my baby broad site, and he said "I swear you are on there more then myspace AND facebook put together" And laughed. I told him that it makes me feel better and I feel like I have alots of friends... He just laughed and told me that if it makes me happy then type away. We are getting along great again. I can see a diff. in him. When he was talking to her, he stopped calling me in the morning to see how I was or what I had planned for the day, ETC. And he is back to doing that. YAY!!! Have a wonderful day ladies!!! My SIL and I are going to take our kids to the creek to throw rocks... it is SO nice and pretty here. IN fact, Friday is was 70 here, and since then it has been like 60s!!) And we both need to get out of the house!! Christmas break is HARD!!!!!!!

Lacie

Lacie,
it is good to hear that you and Matt are going great!
Hope Hoe bag realizes to come between you and Matt is a lost cause...she should feel rather stupid.

Hopefully this girl can move on and leave your man alone. You dont need the stress right now. Let your sister deal with her!

I like sour candy but cant say its a craving. Dark chocolate on the other hand..maybe!

I'm so happy to hear how things are working out! You didn't deserve any of this mess that the b*tch caused.

Well I am done being nice. I feel like being a high schooler again and writing her number on the bathroom walls. For a good time call.... (417)619-5379. I want my marriage to work, but I am not going to put up with him doing this. They really never stopped texting. My verizon detail billing page was down for a couple days and I wasn't able to get on there and look, until today and they have been talking everyday. Sorry I had to vent. He is asleep and I want to put a pillow over his face.... WOW I am SO EVIL!!! Anyhow... I am sick... been coughing and the works for about 3 day now, and haven't had much sleep. I get to sleep and I start coughing or I have dreams of them together. Or I wake up crying... NOT knowing why. THANK GOD.. the two times it has happen he has left for work already. BUT STILL!!! OF COURSE, He thinks I am cheating on him, because we aren't having sex. He says "well if I'm not getting it, SOMEONE is" Well you little SOB... I have NO drive, I am SO tired after doing EVERYTHING all day EVERYDAY, and you talking to another GIRL more then me. Dumbass ME thought he was doing the right thing, but he was just getting better about hiding it from me. Anyhow, I am going to get off the computer for the night and write him a letter/ book. And hope tomorrow is a better day.

Lacie

I am so sorry. I think writing it all out will help, even if it only helps you. I don't understand why he doesn't think it's a big deal, especially since she's stupid enough to write about it on myspace, even if it's just cryptic status messages. It clearly bothers you, so that should be reason enough for him to cool it. The fact that he's just trying to hide it more is not only childish, but it's off. There's something he's still hiding from you, even if it's just feelings he's having (like fear or insecurity). I hope you guys can figure things out.

Oh, and OF COURSE you're not going to be giving him any since he's being such a douche bag. If he would take you seriously and respect you, I'm sure you'd be happy to please him again. What a moron!! Guys are dumb.

I hope tomorrow's a better day.

Oh Lacie...I am so sorry you are going through this. I would cut my husband off too if he was pulling that kind of stuff on me. Sounds to me like they both need bitch slapped a couple of times. Try to concentrate on you and little one...I am with PP that he is hiding something....especially if he is playing the "you are cheating on me" game. I have been there myself with my exhusband. Take care of yourself and I hope this childish situation resolves soon. You don't need this right now and HE needs to grow up and realize this.

Why are men so stupid!

Yes writing a letter/book is a great way to put all your thoughts down.

I remember when DH and I was having it out during pregnancy #1 I wrote everything down in a letter, and when he read it he was in tears...he told me he had no idea that I felt that way, and that he hurt me that bad.

So yes, writing the book/letter is a great idea.

So sorry that Matt is being a dumbass...and I agree with PPs about the "you must be cheating on me" accusations he's doing on you. I hope he is not being uber-stupid with hoe bag

Whenever I have heard a guy use that accusation he was the one doing the cheating.
I hope you two can work this out, and Matt can get his act together.

I can't believe he went there "You are cheating on me", GIVE ME A BREAK. Like touching him is top of mind for you these days after #1 you are focused on baking a child and #2 You are still trying to get your head around the fact that he is an idiot and hasn't been in the running for Husband of the Year in a long long time. When my DH had that little emotional affair it took me a very long time to even let him touch me, as in, hug, etc. I refused to even change in the same room as him, I would go into the bathroom and change, I had no desire for him to see me naked since he had been talking about that type of stuff with another girl. What you are feeling is 100% normal, maybe the note will help him see that

Well I didn't get the letter wrote ast night. I was SO tired and felt like shit!!! I swear I feel like I am going to cough Caleb up. Poor kiddo!!! He knows that he is messing up big right now and he is sucking up BIG. He left me a little love you, have a good day note and kissed me on the head before he left for work. Not to be a BITCH but... I had got NO DAMN sleep and he knows that if he touchs me, it will wake me. ANYHOW... I ASKED him to get his lunch around last night and he didn't AND I WAS NOT doing it!!! SO... at 5:30 in the DAMN morning I can hear him in the kitchen getting it ready then I get back to sleep and he kisses me. I didn't get to bed till 1 and the asshole wakes me up!!! WOW... I sound like a HUGE bitch!!!
He just texted me and asked if I was up.... then called. He should know after 4 days of this shit... I may not be able to talk on the phone, and says "wow, honey you don't good again today" WELL YOU DUMBASS.... it's not just go away over night. He asked if I was still upset with him... YES!!!!!! I told him I was going to be upset for a while because he lied and he won't stop talking to the hoe bag. He tells me " Honey, I am working on that" How hard could it be. It not like when you are trying to stop smoking or drinking!!! Just don't TEXT back!!!!! DUH!!! Well I will stop bitching for right now. I better get the kiddos some breakfast and see what kind of meds I can take today!! LOL!!

Lacie

Sorry to hear that he hasn't stopped and was lying to you about it. I hope you can find some time soon to write a letter to him, let it all out. Aquaopal's experience sounds like hopefully something you can achieve with your letter. I had a friend who went thru marital problems a few years ago and was ready to leave. She wrote an email one evening to her dh, baring her soul. He cried, he had no idea of how she was so torn up inside. He had thought she was just being a bitch. He did manage to change his ways, almost immediately, and they are very happy once again.

I hope you two can work thru everything. Feel better soon.