a mother vent

Okay ladies I want to vent

Just a little back info… I was not raised by my biological mother I was raised by my grandfather and his girl friend (they have been together for over 35 and have never got married). I have called both of them mom, and dad, b/c they are my parents they did everything for me is still do. So my mothers (dad’s girl friend) grand son is getting married March 14th, his wedding is in ATL, my mother was not even thinking of going until Mee-Mee one of her eldest daughters calls and says that she wants her to go. My mother has 6 kids and me makes 7. i told her then that I do not want her to go b/c it is too close to my edd march 17th. I told that to all of her kids, well now they have convinced her to go, and bought her plane ticket (my mother is 73 and not computer literate). I am pissed I feel like if I go into labor I have now one with me. My mother is so jealous that she said to me I have my MIL, that pissed me off more b/c my MIL is not my mother, if I have this baby (yes I sound like a baby but this is a big deal to me) I want my mother. I have done a lot for my mother I take off of work and take her to her appointments when I was in school I have taken off of class to do things for her. I don’t ask a lot from her but I think that this is a major thing. So I’m hurt and mad both at her and the rest of my family for not reminding her of the importance of being there for me when I have this a baby.

I hope she is back in time too. HUGS!!!! When is she due back anyhow?

Lacie

thank you guys i know you ladies would understand

You have every right to be upset. I guess I should stop complaining about my family smothering me right now. I should be thankful that I have all of them to support me but at times it just gets so overwhelming. I can understand you being hurt and I am sorry that they will be away. I hope that they will be back in time. I know we can't be with you physically but just know we will be thinking about and are here for you!

Dee

alnaday wrote:Okay ladies I want to vent

Just a little back info… I was not raised by my biological mother I was raised by my grandfather and his girl friend (they have been together for over 35 and have never got married). I have called both of them mom, and dad, b/c they are my parents they did everything for me is still do. So my mothers (dad’s girl friend) grand son is getting married March 14th, his wedding is in ATL, my mother was not even thinking of going until Mee-Mee one of her eldest daughters calls and says that she wants her to go. My mother has 6 kids and me makes 7. i told her then that I do not want her to go b/c it is too close to my edd march 17th. I told that to all of her kids, well now they have convinced her to go, and bought her plane ticket (my mother is 73 and not computer literate). I am pissed I feel like if I go into labor I have now one with me. My mother is so jealous that she said to me I have my MIL, that pissed me off more b/c my MIL is not my mother, if I have this baby (yes I sound like a baby but this is a big deal to me) I want my mother. I have done a lot for my mother I take off of work and take her to her appointments when I was in school I have taken off of class to do things for her. I don’t ask a lot from her but I think that this is a major thing. So I’m hurt and mad both at her and the rest of my family for not reminding her of the importance of being there for me when I have this a baby.

girl i dont have any advice, all i want to say is you have ever right to be pissed! iw ould be too.. It sounds to me like because your mom is up there in age she was pretty much bullied by her other kids to go so i wouldnt blame it all on her, it was 6 againts 1 and they won.. I really dont know what to tell u to do, im just saying i would be hella mad as well..

she is due back on the 16th the day b4 my edd

I do not blame you for being upset. This is a once in a lifetime event, this birth!

To me, babies completely cancel out weddings!

I wish your mother would reconsider and stand up to your siblings and be there for you for her grandbaby's birth.

Marie I am so sorry that your family is being inconsiderate to your feelings. I hope for your sake that your little one comes before your mother leaves. Hugs. Don't let people stress you out. Take it easy and hopefully it will all work out for you.

I'm in a slightly similar situation with my dad - his crazy wife wants to go on a week-long spa vacation with my dad starting April 2. She told me straight up I'll just have to make sure I have him before then (I'm due March 28). Right, like I can plan that.

Hang in there, and hopefully the timing will all work out. Try not to be too upset with your mom though - it sounds like her other kids ganged up and told her what she was doing.

thank you for your understanding ladies, i am trying not to go off on my family so i'm keeping my distance until i know i will not say something to that i will regret later.